The winds of change are still blowing around here at the shoe shop. I may be feeling rank – as I tend to do as my hormones shift (Hot flushes anyone? Boy are they a bitch!) – but I am still adhering to the wisdom imparted by my brother in law. In fact, I’m working my guts out, and for the main part avoiding social media outside of work. There are up sides and down sides to this.
The downside is that it has taken less than a week to feel completely out of touch with the world outside of the biased mainstream media. But the ups outweigh the downs. I’ve got a tonne of work done. That is always awesome. I’ve got some direction with it. That too is awesome. But most importantly, my state of mind is a million times better. Really and truly. I feel like the someones metaphorical boot has been removed from the top of my head. I’m not worried about the crap that certain parties bring. I’ve gone from hating them to feeling a cross between pity and indifference. And I feel like I am doing things to be proud of.
I’m beginning to wonder how big a role social media plays in anxiety and depression. While I am well aware that in part my study has unearthed that curiosity, it’s also been teased out through conversations with friends who are struggling at the moment, and by my own social media experience. It’s currently shaping the direction in which I may take my project work. I have a long time to read on it which is great as rigorous study needs basis on which to come to life.
It is sad that social media appears to at least have casual links with these issues though. For so many mentally, or physically disabled people social media is a lifeline. Many of us would have no contact with the outside world without social media. So it is bloody awful that the less pleasant individuals in life can take it in a sad direction for us. While you may be inviting your friends directly into your life through your mobile phone feed, it seems that you are also giving your friendly local bully a key to the back door while you are at it.
In January childline released stark warnings “Children are plagued by loneliness and low self-esteem due to the pressures of modern life”, citing social media as the cause. I wish I could say that tonight’s entry into my blog had a sure fire answer for avoiding the sadness. I wish I could say that. But I can’t. All of the ‘keep safe’ articles pertain to internet security, and financial safety. They don’t really cater for passive aggressive bullying via status, or via indifferent-type passive aggression (that usually fools no one). They arent particularly helpful for blatant bullying or “trolling” issues either. I suspect that there is much work to be done in this area, and it is something that I am now thinking about. The biggest tip I have is to walk away though. There is no one on this planet who has the right to tread your down, blatantly or passively. There is no one on this earth who has the right t make you so low that life doesnt seem worth it. Walk away. Don’t take your page down or anything, don’t stop visiting altogether, but take a big step backwards, unfollow anyone making you feel low. Block their presence on chat, find things that make you happy, things that you can celebrate success from, and engage with these things. Go out and hunt down your happy. It’s out there, for everyone its out there. But I can tell you where it is not… It’s not in the house of facebook, nor is it in the bottom of the tumblr. It’s not out with the tweeters, it’s not on the filters and the fakery of the instagram, it might be in pinterest porn… (Fairy houses here at the moment! OMG! The fairy houses ! *squeal*).
If you’re reading this, and you’re one of the facebookers who has had the self esteem sucked out of them please, turn your computer off. Get a sheet of paper out, and make a list. 5 things that you aspire to, or that you enjoy doing. You’re not allowed to give up until you’ve got your 5. Then I want you to choose one. Choose an aspiration from that list, and seize it with both hands. I want you to put the amount of hours you’ve been putting into social media into achieving that aspiration, compliment it by choosing a happy pastime off of your list and indulge inbetween aspiring missions. I think you’ll b surprised at how quickly you see that goal come in to sight if you truly give it the time you’ve given social media. . .
Come back and let me know how it goes sometime ?